FeistyMind

  • Emotional unavailability

    We tend to think that people don’t give themselves to us because they don’t want to. From the high horse of our own experiences, it sometimes seems impossible to understand how someone can love us and still not be emotionally available to connect with us. It took me quite a few years to understand that.…

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  • Stress is a pain

    I’m going to try something new to deal with stress: a cortisol reset. The idea from a podcast resonated with me. Twenty minutes with no notifications, no scrolling, and no distractions. It can be a walk, journaling, meditation, yoga, a bath… I already use baths (often without even realizing it) when I’m very stressed or…

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  • News flash

    I got the job. After 21 years of thinking about strategic consulting, I finally got it. It only took 21 years after Bain told me they would not even consider me because my grades were not good enough. And me telling them that was bullshit. I am, indeed, a very stubborn woman, with very persistent…

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  • Anxiety

    Anxiety is eating me alive. After a full week of trying to keep it at bay, I’ve decided to embrace it. I cannot give myself another pep talk about how I should not be feeling what I am feeling. If I’m feeling it, then it’s here. And, to be honest, it’s justified. Things are changing.…

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  • One of the funniest things about me is that, as soon as I am stressed, under pressure, our of my comfort zone in any way, I tend to think other people see me as a misbehaved teenager. It does not matter that I am over 40 years old, that I’ve built a solid corporate career…

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  • Some days

    Reaching a new place in life where I honestly fear being afraid. It’s not a pleasant place, full of catastrophic scenarios, disasters of epic proportions, chains of events that end in my doom… or worse, my kids’. These days are fewer and farther between, but they still exist. It’s my insecurity speaking, while my rational…

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  • And then, this happened

    I go slowly. I make compromises with myself. I feel guilty that some days (or even weeks) I cannot bring myself to write… But then I reach a milestone: the first time I have enough revised words to print. And I feel so proud. I did it. It’s here. It’s real. It’s just 8,500 words,…

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  • Focus Focus

    I’ve decided to completely let go of the idea of building a brand or an Instagram profile, or whatever I’ll eventually need to sell this book, at this stage. On one hand, I know social media takes time. I also know that without it, it will be virtually impossible to sell anything. So at some…

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  • About the week

    There’s nothing in life that comes without putting in the work. Every skill takes hours. You just need to put those hours in, there’s no other way. And do not believe anyone who tells you otherwise. When you are younger, you tell yourself that person A or person B are just more talented at music…

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  • But above all, I am tired of pretending that I don’t want the things I clearly do. I know what those things are! I know I want them. I know what I have to do to get them and I know no one will stop me. I also know I will be here to laugh…

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